No matter your age there are always challenges and situations to consider when dating. As we mature, our priorities change and our goals take on the importance of our environment and status we want to achieve. So what’s so special about dating in your 50’s, don’t we all want the same thing no matter what our age: True love and happiness.
As we experience life we tend to gain a better perspective of who we are and what it is that will lead to our happiness. We have developed a realistic vision of those wants and needs and those infamous “Deal breakers”. As we date we utilize those deal breakers in choosing a partner whom we think can enhance our lives and enhance our happiness. Some may call it being picky, however let’s face it in our 50’s we should know what we want; and what and who can help us get there. The challenge is find someone on the same level and not one who is still trying to find himself. While dating in our 50’s we don’t need a partner who is trying to figure out what they want in life, we should be looking for someone who has set and achieved goals, financial stable, and know how to enjoy the things they have acquired over the years.
In our 50’s we may have teenagers and grown child we are trying to help as they navigate in life, now is not a time to choose a mate who does not have their life together. Let’s face it, if we do they will become an “unofficial children” we will be helping them to figure out life.
Dating in your 50’s can be as wonderful as dating in our earlier years if we can remember the following:
Never lower your expectations on what you know will make you happy. The right person is out there for you.
Stop playing games. We are all grown, state your expectation on where you want the dating to lead. If you are looking to get married let it be known, this simply will save a lot of time in the long run. If you are just looking for a companion with no strings attached, make sure it is stated at the beginning. Don’t waste years on a relationship that is not going where you want it to go.
Make time for the relationship. Yes, we are at the top of our game and that includes our career. We need to make sure we are giving enough time to grow the relationship, and not let it take a backseat to our careers. Find that healthy balance.
Take time to ENJOY dating. Once you have found the mate who has the same goals as you, enjoy you time together and the process.
Written By: Donna Tebought
